Don't spend money on somebody else' Wife.
I knew a guy who joined the Mormon church because he thought it would help him date a certain Mormon girl, a girl who refused to date non-Mormons. How is that gonna work.
But I have no idea how much of his lack of contact is wjat due to him being busy or if that's just an excuse to not commit.
All this said, God is love and fully understands and appreciates your problem.